Thursday 5 January 2017

Conquering my Fears

For some reason the older I get the more fearful I am of things and it doesn't seem to be getting any better! I once locked myself away in the bedroom for hours waiting for Simon to get home and deal with a rogue spider and have also found myself a little nervous about flying off to America in March, despite having never suffered from a flight phobia before!

"On the other side of fear lies freedom" - is a quote that is often thrown around in various contexts, but in many cases, it's true. When you let go of the things you're most afraid of, that's when you can start living your life.

Here are just some of the, some might say ridiculous, things that I'm afraid of!

Wasps - slightly inconvenient when our wedding fell in the height of wasp season!

Dentists - a popular one I know, but I'm absolutely terrified of them.

Thrill rides - I'm a nightmare in theme parks, I have to spend most of my day sitting on a bench watching everyone else have fun.

Slipping on ice - this probably sounds so daft but I have a genuine fear of ice to the point where I work myself up into a state if I know I have to make my way to work on slipper pavements in Winter.

Most of us have fears. Whether they're deep and meaningful, or irrational fears of spiders, they can take over our lives if we let them. Phobias are actually pretty serious, and telling someone to 'get over it' can quite often be useless. There's not been a lot of scientific research that's actually proved conclusive yet, so No one is sure whether phobias are caused by environmental factors or genetics.
So do we have to just accept phobias as a part of life?

Although phobias are common, we don't just have to live with them. There are many ways that we can try to treat our negative responses to the things that most scare us (and I don't mean going to the extreme of appearing on I'm a Celebrity to get covered in spiders)! According to a recent survey by Voucherbox, there are many ways that people across the UK choose to treat their phobias, leading them to spend an average of £100 on different types of treatment in a given year. One common method, opted for by 29% of those questioned, was hypnotherapy or psychotherapy. In fact, my little sister was so fed up of her fear of being in lifts that she decided on hypnotherapy to help her.

So what are they? Hypnotherapy allows you to access your subconscious to safely re-program the way your brain works. It doesn't hurt, and you're in a 'trance' the whole time as your emotional responses are rewired. Psychotherapy is a bit more traditional as it often involves going to a psychologist, who'll be able to recommend a range of talking therapies. A doctor might refer you to CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy), or even provide you with medication if the fears are causing mental health issues that are stopping you live your day to day life.

Sometimes, to sort out problems within ourselves, we have to look to ourselves for the answers. Many fears are conquered thanks to education and literally talking ourselves out of it. If, for example, you're scared of flying, it's a good idea to teach yourself about how the plane works. That way, you'll understand why turbulence happens, or why planes make funny noises. A fear of flying - like many fears - is actually really illogical, and when you do some research, you'll find that flying is actually one of the safest modes of transport around. A lot of experts say that when you understand planes in depth and the risks surrounding taking flights, you'll have the evidence to be able to overcome your fears.

Whether your fear is of failure, bees, or even knees (yes, this is a serious phobia which actually affects a small minority of people...), you can overcome your fear.

So, let's share! What are you afraid of?


  1. I am also afraid of thrill rides. I have a theory that horror fans (me) tend to hate thrill rides and that it's something to do with enjoying the feeling of adrenaline in whatever way you enjoy.

    I used to be afraid of the dentist but recently started going to a dental practice at the bottom of Salters Road. I told them I was a bit nervous and asked for a dentist who would be able to support me in that. My dentist is the best I've ever had and my teeth are in the best shape they've ever been in. Going for my check up isn't scary anymore (though there's always the worry that it might be expensive!) and it's the best feeling ever. I think facing your fears, asking for help and being supported can totally sort you out :) Caz x

    1. Thank you so much for your comment, that makes me feel loads better! I should definitely go and hunt out a dentist who makes me feel relaxed x

  2. Like you I hae=ve quite deep fears of he dentist and ice, due to some horrible experiences when I was younger; the dentist started drilling into a tooth before the anesthetic kicked in a hit a nerve, it was total agony! My dentist now is brilliant though and won't start drilling until i'm happy (it's good motivation to look after my teeth as well!). I also slipped on ice when i was about 19 at the top of the bigg market and broke my wrist. It was a busy lunchtime and no one came and helped me up or asked if i was ok - which is strange from the centre of Newcastle!


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